mom s diary

We are sometimes frustrated in facing children unwilling to tell his good and bad life to us. It doesn’t occur to teenager, but also to an infant. Well, why don’t you try to implement one of the ten idea, ok. Here we go…

1. Don’t force
The stronger you force them, they will close themselves. If you  relax, they will probably easier to share.

2. Always exist for them
The children are sensitive enough to your activity. If you look busy, they will know, but if you have leisure time for you and them. They will be easy to share.

3. Involve yourself
Try to involve in their activity, like joining to play basket, cycling. By playing with them they will be closer up.

4. Not judge
If we judge when he talks, other time he is not interested to share his feeling anymore. Show your eagerness without giving judgment “right “ or “ wrong “

5. The way we ask
A question started with word “ why “ , tend to create a protection. The ‘yes and no’ question will not give much response. Give a question to give stimulation like “ what do you see of that painting ?. Than you ask “ you like or not with that paintings ?

6. A car as a place to have a talk
When you take and fetch them, try to talk with them. It is little disturbance from guests or they are enjoying before TV or computer.

7. Give response
Knowing you listen and care what he tells , will make them feeling supported from you that stimulate them to tell more.

8. Involve in children hobby
Ask to talk while he paints, color and draw. This is very effective for small child. By joining it, you will be sensitive to share with them.

9. Provide the time to have fun
If the children feel you provide time for them, whatever the activity is, trust me, they will be gladly to share with you. Remember be a good listener.

10. Be parents and friends for them
If you act like a parent and friend, it can preserve the children willingness to share with you.