on becoming a perfect mother part 2
Don’t be tight about money. Okay, so blowing money day after day isn’t the best thing to do, but don’t automatically say no to everything your kid asks for. If you always say no and follow this with a lecture about saving money, you will be known as the “Tight Parent”, the one who never buys anything. Buy something small every now and then. Even offering to purchase some candy or chips at the petrol station can make a difference. Every now and then buy something big that you are sure your kid wants. For example, an iPod, or a bike. And be generous at birthdays. This can include taking a special day to go out to dinner, see a movie, and choose a nice gift or receive nice gifts from parents.
Make sure you are an approachable person to talk to. Try your hardest to always be understanding and a good listener. Knowing that they can go to their mum for friendship advice, information on sex and puberty, homework help, or just a hug goes a long way for kids. Not having someone they can talk to can cause kids to retire into a shell, so make sure you talk to them about how they feel regularly.
Be supportive, and never laugh at your kids hobbies, interests or friends. So, your son doesn’t want to study medicine and become a doctor? Don’t get angry, this is your child’s life and they can make some of their own decisions. Understand that it’s okay if your child thinks differently from you. Don’t get mad because they have a different opinion to you, or your son wants to become an engineer and not a doctor. Don’t laugh at them, or their friends. Who cares if you daughter listens to heavy metal music and wears too much eyeliner? She’s still your daughter. And so what if your son is friends with a guy who speaks in a funny accent or who has a different skin color? You might not do what your kids do, but that is their decision, not yours. You have a big impact on their lives already-you choose what school they go to, when they eat dinner, the amount of pocket money they get for doing chores. Don’t over do it.
Be able to admit that something you did may have been wrong and don’t be afraid to apologize. It might be hard, but it’s better for everyone if you just admit to your mistakes and apologize. It saves everyone the trouble of being mad that you’re being stubborn and teaches your kids that it’s okay to make mistakes, as well as the importance of an apology. Simply calm yourself, evaluate the situation, determine what you did wrong and why. Then apologize and explain how or why you acted the way you did. A good way to start off may be: “I would like to apologize for how I acted earlier, and I realize that I was wrong,” then transition into the rest
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