mom s diary

We are sometimes frustrated in facing children unwilling to tell his good and bad life to us. It doesn’t occur to teenager, but also to an infant. Well, why don’t you try to implement one of the ten idea, ok. Here we go…

1. Don’t force
The stronger you force them, they will close themselves. If you  relax, they will probably easier to share.

2. Always exist for them
The children are sensitive enough to your activity. If you look busy, they will know, but if you have leisure time for you and them. They will be easy to share.

3. Involve yourself
Try to involve in their activity, like joining to play basket, cycling. By playing with them they will be closer up.

4. Not judge
If we judge when he talks, other time he is not interested to share his feeling anymore. Show your eagerness without giving judgment “right “ or “ wrong “

5. The way we ask
A question started with word “ why “ , tend to create a protection. The ‘yes and no’ question will not give much response. Give a question to give stimulation like “ what do you see of that painting ?. Than you ask “ you like or not with that paintings ?

6. A car as a place to have a talk
When you take and fetch them, try to talk with them. It is little disturbance from guests or they are enjoying before TV or computer.

7. Give response
Knowing you listen and care what he tells , will make them feeling supported from you that stimulate them to tell more.

8. Involve in children hobby
Ask to talk while he paints, color and draw. This is very effective for small child. By joining it, you will be sensitive to share with them.

9. Provide the time to have fun
If the children feel you provide time for them, whatever the activity is, trust me, they will be gladly to share with you. Remember be a good listener.

10. Be parents and friends for them
If you act like a parent and friend, it can preserve the children willingness to share with you.

Where do you save your tooth brush ? Bath room wasteful ? Actually there is no wrong to put on it. But, if it is near closet, it will be a matter.

According to biologist from Arizona university, USA, there are more or less 3,2 million bacteria in every 2,5 cm 2 of closet. Wow..! While you wash the water into the closet, the air spurts will bring to the area till 1,8 meter. It means , the wasteful and tooth brush can be infected.

Want to keep your teeth health ? The way, clean with flowing water before using and saving in close area like behind the mirror or drugs box in the bath room.

8. Acceptance
Accept him whoever he is. Don’t try to change him. You don’t want anyone to change you, are you? So does he.

9. Less chatter when the time and condition is not good
When your husband get home and he looks so tired with his job and project, and there is something important you really want to talk about, you better get to the point.

10. Give him time to take a rest and be alone for a while.
When your husband first get home, give him sometimes to be alone and to take a rest for a while. Serve him with his favorite food and drink. Don’t forget to give him your best smile and warm kiss.

11. Respect him
Show respect for your husband by not making negative comments about his thoughts and opinions, by being considerate of his plans, and by avoiding the “eye roll” when listening to him.

Don’t be tight about money. Okay, so blowing money day after day isn’t the best thing to do, but don’t automatically say no to everything your kid asks for. If you always say no and follow this with a lecture about saving money, you will be known as the “Tight Parent”, the one who never buys anything. Buy something small every now and then. Even offering to purchase some candy or chips at the petrol station can make a difference. Every now and then buy something big that you are sure your kid wants. For example, an iPod, or a bike. And be generous at birthdays. This can include taking a special day to go out to dinner, see a movie, and choose a nice gift or receive nice gifts from parents.

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Being a good or even perfect wife is not easy for me. But I’m trying to. Here are some tips for you that I have already use in my marriage.

1. try to control your words. Be careful with them.
The complex problem of our life sometimes makes us really tired. It may cause stress and we may be able to get upset easily. I suggest you to control your word when you are upset. Don’t let us say something that we would regret. When you angry, you better wash your face first and wait until you calm down before you speak.

2. keep your communication
Communication is very important for a marriage. You need to keep your communication well with your husband. Tell him everything you need and everything you feel. Share with him about your problem. . It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs.