mom s diary

We are sometimes frustrated in facing children unwilling to tell his good and bad life to us. It doesn’t occur to teenager, but also to an infant. Well, why don’t you try to implement one of the ten idea, ok. Here we go…

1. Don’t force
The stronger you force them, they will close themselves. If you  relax, they will probably easier to share.

2. Always exist for them
The children are sensitive enough to your activity. If you look busy, they will know, but if you have leisure time for you and them. They will be easy to share.

3. Involve yourself
Try to involve in their activity, like joining to play basket, cycling. By playing with them they will be closer up.

4. Not judge
If we judge when he talks, other time he is not interested to share his feeling anymore. Show your eagerness without giving judgment “right “ or “ wrong “

5. The way we ask
A question started with word “ why “ , tend to create a protection. The ‘yes and no’ question will not give much response. Give a question to give stimulation like “ what do you see of that painting ?. Than you ask “ you like or not with that paintings ?

6. A car as a place to have a talk
When you take and fetch them, try to talk with them. It is little disturbance from guests or they are enjoying before TV or computer.

7. Give response
Knowing you listen and care what he tells , will make them feeling supported from you that stimulate them to tell more.

8. Involve in children hobby
Ask to talk while he paints, color and draw. This is very effective for small child. By joining it, you will be sensitive to share with them.

9. Provide the time to have fun
If the children feel you provide time for them, whatever the activity is, trust me, they will be gladly to share with you. Remember be a good listener.

10. Be parents and friends for them
If you act like a parent and friend, it can preserve the children willingness to share with you.

Where do you save your tooth brush ? Bath room wasteful ? Actually there is no wrong to put on it. But, if it is near closet, it will be a matter.

According to biologist from Arizona university, USA, there are more or less 3,2 million bacteria in every 2,5 cm 2 of closet. Wow..! While you wash the water into the closet, the air spurts will bring to the area till 1,8 meter. It means , the wasteful and tooth brush can be infected.

Want to keep your teeth health ? The way, clean with flowing water before using and saving in close area like behind the mirror or drugs box in the bath room.

Are you confused to know that your parents with only civil servant with enough salary can satisfy all family in one month and educate us till university ? Don’t be shocked, the key is salary management.
Like what happened to Jeremy ( 25 ) , single  get salary 3 million  every month. However, he feels it is not enough. Every end of month, he still withdraw his saving account or even borrow to his friend to continue the rest of month.
One of Jeremy mistaken, he used to write his outcome every month, and he let money flow as his desire, not his need. Please, understand it he wants to enjoy his salary first.
Actually , the point is how the salary can be used for daily operation , but can be save some for future. well, the saving can be really for future, but for unexpectedly need.
According to money planner, based on the monthly usage salary, the outcome can be categorized into four stages, like :

1. Outcome for daily cost pose
2. Paying on installment pose
3. Insurance premi pose
4. Saving and investment pose

Installment and savings
Now we already know what will be the must outcome every month. Than what make the priority of those pose ?
The first one is to pay the installment. Our life won’t be peace to chase by it. This must 30 % of the monthly income. Including all kind of installment.
The second priority is saving and investment ( if any ) . It is not much just 10 % of  your income ( more is better )
The third priority to pay the insurance premium. The budget is 10-20 % from your income every month. If you don’t have it you can continue to next pose. But if you are interested, don’t buy too many. Just choose the one can anticipate the risk and take the economical premium bonus.
At last, is everyday out come. This includes food, transport, pulse and so forth. Why it is made the last priority ? Because it is more flexible. Like the budget on transportation. Ideally , you can save 50% from your monthly payment.

How much time do you spend with your children in the day?

If you are a working father, you will need to spend about 3 minutes a day with your children.

Fathers who abandon their families, fathers who rarely see their children because of divorce, and fathers who are busy and have very little or nothing to do with the raising of their children are common.

Dad gets up early, takes the long drive to work, gets off late, takes the long drive home, and gets home very tired. He just wants to have dinner, relax a little, and go to bed so that he can repeat the same routine the next day. Every now and then, he tells himself that he will spend more time with his children tomorrow.

Quality time spent between a father and his children is essential for both the parent and the children. The children need to know that their father loves and cares for them, and the father needs to be careful that he does not lose his relationship with his children by neglect.

So, have you spend your time with your children today?