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12. Be romance to him
Give him an unexpected kiss or leave a message of love on his voice mail. Men like to be romanced too.

13. Surprise him with small prize sometimes.
One small handkerchief tied with red ribbon might surprise him and make him has a new spirit in working that day. And of course you’ll get a nice and warm kiss from him. Isn’t that nice?

14. Be his best friend.
In getting trough of your marriage, you and your husband must be able to be a good team and a good partner, especially when you have kids. Be his best friend so when he has some trouble he always knows where to go, to you.

15. Trust him
You choose him to be your husband. So, you trust him to be your husband.
It’s your own choice, your own decision. So, keep on trusting him in your marriage. I know sometimes you feel that he’s changing. Maybe you both are changing. Remember, don’t forget to discuss everything together. Solve all trouble together. You both love each other. If you trust him and he trust you, then it is easy for you to talk each other. Once again, trust him.

8. Acceptance
Accept him whoever he is. Don’t try to change him. You don’t want anyone to change you, are you? So does he.

9. Less chatter when the time and condition is not good
When your husband get home and he looks so tired with his job and project, and there is something important you really want to talk about, you better get to the point.

10. Give him time to take a rest and be alone for a while.
When your husband first get home, give him sometimes to be alone and to take a rest for a while. Serve him with his favorite food and drink. Don’t forget to give him your best smile and warm kiss.

11. Respect him
Show respect for your husband by not making negative comments about his thoughts and opinions, by being considerate of his plans, and by avoiding the “eye roll” when listening to him.

Don’t be tight about money. Okay, so blowing money day after day isn’t the best thing to do, but don’t automatically say no to everything your kid asks for. If you always say no and follow this with a lecture about saving money, you will be known as the “Tight Parent”, the one who never buys anything. Buy something small every now and then. Even offering to purchase some candy or chips at the petrol station can make a difference. Every now and then buy something big that you are sure your kid wants. For example, an iPod, or a bike. And be generous at birthdays. This can include taking a special day to go out to dinner, see a movie, and choose a nice gift or receive nice gifts from parents.

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Be patient. Being a mother is a little challenging sometimes, especially if you have a daughter. But keep your cool and try to stay patient. Your daughter snuck into your room and put on your makeup? Explain to her the practical reasons why she shouldn’t do this, such as hygiene, clogging pores, etc. Then tell her why you don’t like her doing it- she’ll muck up her skin at this young age, this is your makeup, etc. Try this approach to other problems. Stay calm, explain the practical reasons not to do something, and then why YOU don’t want them to do something.

Take an interest in your child’s interests. If your son likes cars, maybe buy him a model car he can make. Ask questions, like what is your favorite type of car, which model is that car, etc. If your daughter is interested in animals, buy her something like a magazine for animals, and tell her some interesting sites and books she can look at. Ask her what her favorite animal is, info about animals, etc. Make an effort.

You can see the others; movie, games, soccer and football, youngster and tour and travel.

3. Appreciate him
Appreciate him and he will appreciate you. Always thanks to your husband for what he has been doing for his family. He has already work hard all day long for his family. It is not about how much money he get, it is about how hard he try. Further more if he help you doing your homework. He’s not always doing that, does he?

4. Tell him you love him
Tell him you love him and show him your love in every little thing you do. For some people, especially people in the east, it is not easy to say ‘I love you’ . just try it. You’ll feel strange at first, but you’ll get usual with it.

5. Be the real you.
Look inside you. The real you. We are woman. There are so many kindest we truly have as a woman. It is naturally there. Control your self and you’ll find that you are kind and gentle.

6. Never ever bring up past problem
It will be better for you if you just forget the past problems once they have solved.

7. Compliment your husband often
Compliment your husband often but don’t be over in doing it.

Being a good or even perfect wife is not easy for me. But I’m trying to. Here are some tips for you that I have already use in my marriage.

1. try to control your words. Be careful with them.
The complex problem of our life sometimes makes us really tired. It may cause stress and we may be able to get upset easily. I suggest you to control your word when you are upset. Don’t let us say something that we would regret. When you angry, you better wash your face first and wait until you calm down before you speak.

2. keep your communication
Communication is very important for a marriage. You need to keep your communication well with your husband. Tell him everything you need and everything you feel. Share with him about your problem. . It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs.